1. SPEAK FROM KINDNESS
We're only human ! It obviously can't be positive 100% of the time, but if you make a conscience effort to be kind, patient & uplifting in all you say, then you'll immediately create a happier environment for everyone in your home. Practice positive thinking & talking, it's amazing how upon reflection how negative we can all be without even realising it. Instead of putting the focus on something bad, put the focus on something good.
2. FEELING SAFE, COMFORTABLE VS FEELING AGITATED, ANXIOUS IN YOUR SPACE,
Not to be alarming, but this one is a biggie! So what's the key to a safe & comforting environment, the way it looks & smells ! The way you organise & style your home has an incredible impact on how you feel in it. It's so simple, imagine yourself in a dark room, cluttered in mess with items on the floor, dirty surfaces... you get home from a day at work & you can't relax...why? Because how can you in that kind of mess?
Now imagine yourself in a room filled with soft natural light, all surfaces are clean, items in your home each have their place & the space overall is organised & neat. The colours are bright & fresh & this instantly makes you feel relaxed, as you take a deep breathe in, happy to be home, you light your favourite candle & the sweet aroma fills your nose. - It's so easy to create that "Ahh finally home" moment most days by cleaning as you go & practicing positive habits. Having a comfortable environment isn't necessarily about the things in it but ensuring that what you do have, is neat & well thought out.
A happy home is one where there is a lot of praise! Say nice things to your partner & kiddies. Pay compliments & show appreciation for even small things.
4. SHOW LOVE !
Don't forget to show love, express it through hugs, kisses & always take the time to tell those in your family how much you love each other. The most successful long term relationships & happiest children are those where love is expressed on the daily. Not weekly, not monthly.
5. LEAD BY EXAMPLE
You learnt this one when you swore in front of your little one a few too many times & then randomly one day you hear your kid drop an f bomb. Oooops, it happens to us all ahah. But what we have to realise is how deep the monkey see, monkey do saying actually runs - Not only for your children but leading by example sets respect between you & your partner too. Easy tip, instead of yelling, use a stern & encouraging tone of voice when in a frustrating sitch.
6. QUALITY FAMILY TIME & ONE ON ONE
That's right, you, your partner, your kids, get away from the TV!!! Get off your iphones !!! Tear away those iPads !!! And instead, come together to have digital free family time all together. There are endless options for fun things to do together that are free & get everyone talking, laughing & interacting closely. Equally important to getting the whole shabam together is one on one time. Don't underestimate date night & if you have more than one child, spend time with each of them one on one delveloping.
7. BE OPEN ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS
Don't bottle up your feelings, this goes for when they're positive & negative. If you have frustrations, don't wait until you explode ! Instead if something ticks you off, have a way of expressing it to your family calmly & in a way they'll understand.
8. LAST NOTE - KNOW THIS....
No house is perfect. No day is perfect. Having a positive home is a goal for 90% of the time, in-between meltdowns and tantrums and imperfect parenting and life events that derail even the best of intentions.
Parenting is a hard, hard job but loving your children isn’t.
Showing them that you love them, even when you may not like their behavior, isn’t hard.
No one’s parenting is perfect; we’re all figuring it out day after day but putting in the effort and the work to have a positive home is the difference maker.